Okay. So. We were still working on the EASY program that the Baby Whisperer prescribed, but Eriana doesn’t fall asleep or stay asleep unless she is being held or snuggled. This is not really working for us. Co-sleeping is one thing, but we are holding her while we sleep, while she sleeps, taking turns snuggling her, which I find dangerous, and trying to do housework (or, in Jim’s case actual work) while holding a child. That doesn’t work when Jim needs to get stuff done or I need to cook dinner.
I have read “The Happiest Baby on the Block” and understand the fourth trimester theory. But I have to go back to work, Jim has to be able to work while Eriana sleeps during the day, my mom won’t be able to hold her nonstop on her day with Eriana, and my sister has 2 kids of her own, so there’s no holding her nonstop on her day, either.
We want more than anything for our little girl to feel loved and to trust us, but we also want to help her to be independent. I have read from several sources that sleep training can begin as early as 6 weeks. E will be 6 weeks on Wednesday. We decided starting at the beginning of the week would be best, so starting three days earlier than when she’s 6 weeks old wouldn’t be a big deal.
So this afternoon we started the training as outlined in Sleeping Through the Night by Jodi A. Mindell. It’s a Cry It Out (CIO) plan with more consolation than CIO gives (not like the Furberizing in “Meet the Fockers”). The book and all the reviews I read say that it works within 3-4 days for most babies and kids. You put a drowsy baby down to sleep, and if she cries you wait 5 minutes and then go in to console her. Once her need is met she goes back down. Again, if she cries you wait 5 minutes. The next time is 10 minutes, and 10 minutes every visit after. It’s a patience game. I’m pretty sure I cried as much as Eriana this afternoon.
I know some of you are reading this and judging me and I want you to know that I don’t care. Eriana is our baby. We get to decide what we think is best for her. I’ve done a lot of research and this is what Jim and I decided to try after other things have failed and we talked a lot about the options. All of Eriana’s needs are met. She doesn’t generally cry that often. She smiles. We read to her, talk to her, sing to her. She has the best of everything we can afford. She is so loved. But we want her to be able to fall asleep on her own, stay asleep when she’s in her bed/pack-n-play/bassinet, and put herself back to sleep when she wakes up.
This sucks, it’s hard, I want to pick her up and snuggle her constantly when she screams. She’s so pitiful and adorable and I just want to shower her with kisses and hug her until she falls asleep and then hold her while she snores.
Below is a closing shot of just how stinking cute she is. We think she’s finally up to the 8 lb minimum for her cloth diapers, so we started using them this week. She looks like a tiny sumo wrestler. And she doesn’t usually cry like that when she has her diaper changed. But she’s cute when she cries, nonetheless!